Tag: Self Help

Write a fresh script

Blessed New Year Folks! A Big Thank you to all my friends who have been with me through my writing journey over the last three years. Last Year , which ended yesterday was certainly Baptism by Fire (made me grow up), so many moments of self doubt and fighting inner demons that felt me clean enough to start off on a new slate. But as I reflect, there is one break through idea that comes through.

New paradigms require different operating systems

We encounter challenges, when our inner operating system is not up to the mark vis-à-vis our functional environments. As we are biological systems, we evolve. Evolution is slower when we cling on to the past dearly. The lessons of the past are precious and hold valuable lessons. But establishing the present based on the past is where we use an old processor to run a new system. New scientific research has inferred that our genes evolve as per the social milieu that we inhabit.  Stress and loneliness are factors are common ailments of young professionals.  These two factors impact performance. It is imperative, that the expectation setting is grounded in reality than myth.  Create a new narrative as the story in the head constructs reality.

As the new year starts off on a prayer driven edifice, my  prayer for this year is simple. Find Yourself on the path to realize the true selves that we truly are.

2014, I will be tough on You. Create a future more meaningful than your past.That is our fundamental calling isn’t it?

Alas… I am ordinarily Human….

I am man of a few abilities; more frailties than one can count and makes a reasonable living to call himself middle class. Everyday in the media I am bombarded with visuals and text of folks who seem to be in the top 1% of their trade (the rest 99% are the aam aadmi or humble Samaritans trying to making a scraping living).  This does not imply that I am lacking confidence or aspirations. Just being realistic, taking stock of the everyday battle called life. Just like everyone, I have been through the grind; college, higher studies, first internship, first job and so on. But, this trail has been littered with debris too like grad school application rejections, failed job interviews, low scores in exams. It has taken me time to see what things I am adept and which areas in which I suck big time la. Sometimes, too many failures and missed opportunities have a bearing on ones mental frame of mind. But, I never forgot the F5 button: there is always a refresh mode to life. Starting off on a clean slate is the thing to do when pushed to the wall.  It is painful to leave an established set-up, and I have done it four times orready lor. There is nothing more emotionally over-bearing than to lose friends and a sense of community that one has invested dearly in. But looking behind too often, makes one lose vision of the future. Try and make the present a brilliant one, easier said than done but the present initiatives make the pathway for future success. Just be patient with the present.

Personal life is also life, which I have often lost track off. Parents matter and spending time with them is precious. Sometimes our parents need us more than our urge to have privacy to watch nonsense material and binge drink with pals. I have been turned down by women that I have held a torch for. I have gone into an emotional down ward spiral like most young men. But they have also inspired to look good, dress well, be responsible. Rejection by women can be amazing motivators.

These stories do not come out in Big Media. Only Zuckerburg suckers are around it seems. I like Sheryl Sandberg: She offers real advise to women like deny sex to your husband if he does not help you out in changing diapers of your baby. Amazing stuff I must say. Real People are not dead.